09 November

How often should i have sex with my girlfriend?

Author: miz helena  /  Category: sex,

My girlfriend and i have been together for 2 years, and we have a long distance relationship.We speak on the phone everyday and i see her once every 2 to 3 weeks.She complains that i want to have sex with her anytime i see her and its is a big problem to her. But i said to her its not a big deal when only have sex like about 3 or 4 times a month, but she still complains to me and even considered breaking up with me because i want to have sex with her anytime i see her. What should i do?

I think that you should be the one to stop initiating all of the sex. Next time let her be the one to make the move first. She is probably reacting this way because you two see each other so rarely, and she might feel like all you want to do is have sex with her when you see her. So maybe lay off for a little while just to prove that you love her for her and not just the sex. She will appreciate this. Also, it might be good to apologize for making her feel used, even though that was not your intention at all.

16 Responses to “How often should i have sex with my girlfriend?”

  1. Binky Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 3:34 pm

    What sort of healthy adult couple only has sex 3 or 4 times a month. She is the one with the problem here.
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  2. Veronica Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 3:45 pm

    only have sex with her when u 2 start to get sexual. likee if u 2 are hooking up, start to feel her up then start to get a little more into it. see if she wants to… but doooooo notttttttttt do this all teh time. only when u know shes really into it.

    i really hope i helped. good luck to you!
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  3. Jose Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 4:14 pm

    3x a day
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  4. Bradie Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 4:40 pm

    I think that you should be the one to stop initiating all of the sex. Next time let her be the one to make the move first. She is probably reacting this way because you two see each other so rarely, and she might feel like all you want to do is have sex with her when you see her. So maybe lay off for a little while just to prove that you love her for her and not just the sex. She will appreciate this. Also, it might be good to apologize for making her feel used, even though that was not your intention at all.
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  5. Rick Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 4:59 pm

    Let her make the move for sex. She feels you only want to see her for the sex even if only seldom.
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  6. Alison Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 5:46 pm

    ….if you were seeing each other on a regular basis, you’d probably do it at least once a week. So wanting to sleep w/ her whenever you see her every other week, at best…not really sure I see the problem. You’re probably going to lose this girl!
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  7. kap Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 6:18 pm

    I think it’s kinda funny she complains about having sex with you every time you guys see each other, when you only see each other a couple times a month! But if she’s worth keeping, compromise with her–compromise is necessary in all relationships.
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  8. Shelley Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 6:27 pm

    When you see her, go out with her. Spend time with her, be romantic and get her some flowers. Take her out to dinner and movies. Every time you see her don’t try to have sex with her. Because now it looks like you go see her just to have sex and that doesn’t look good. So… one out of every four (or five) visits, if things are going that way. Otherwise, wait til she mentions sex.
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  9. xray babe Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 7:09 pm

    man shes odd. i say all day everyday… if it was up to me. lol she may feel like since its long dist and she doesn’t see you very often and every time you do see her you want to have sex…. i would imagine she’s feeling kinna used. she prob feels like maybe you just showed up to have sex, the distance is prob a factor in all areas of the relationship. i don’t think its an issue of "were having sex too much" i think its more psychological
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  10. notyou311 Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 7:57 pm

    Get married.
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  11. youllneverknow Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 8:24 pm

    me and my boyfriend have sex AT LEAST 2 times a week.
    so i think your girlfriend as the problem.
    but try cuddling with her and then maybe she will want to "play" more.
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  12. Bridgett Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 8:30 pm

    that’s weird there must be something about your relationship that is bothering her and she’s using this as an excuse, bc that’s odd
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  13. Anonymous Me Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 9:03 pm

    Try and explain to her that guys have emotional/physical needs like girls do. Girls emotions are more based on HEARING things, like when you talk and say ‘i love you’ and tell her she’s beautiful and things like that, that is what drives her emotionally. Guys emotions are more based on the PHYSICAL aspect. We feel loved and wanted most effectively through physical interaction (not to say that hearing things doesn’t do anything for us, or that physical stuff isn’t emotional for a girl). Different things drive males and females, and if you can both recognize what drives each other, it will work out better.

    While I’m saving sex for marriage so i don’t know from experience, I’ve heard/read that most people who are married and obviously sexually active have sex multiple times a week. So a few times a month is probably pretty dificult for you as it is. Try and explain that to her and talk it out. Hopefully that helped :)
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  14. Dan Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 9:31 pm

    At least twice a day is standard. Once in the morning and once at night.
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  15. Qyub Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 9:38 pm

    I’m sure you’re leaving out a whole big part of the story.

    You probably just roll up to her door, and rip her pants off or something.

    She’s a girl, treat her like so.

    My girlfriend and I are both away for school/work and we don’t see each other much. And when I see her, yes, I would like to have sex, but I’ll take her out to a nice dinner date first, take her around, and lead up to it.

    It doesn’t matter how long it’s been. I’ve been with my girl for 5 years and still treat her as I did day one.

    Do this and you’ll be having sex like a beast without her complaints.
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  16. Nambi Says:
    November 8th, 2009 at 10:12 pm

    Sex,if done excessively,especially sexual intercourse,will result only in the pain around the vagina.And if you happened to see her everyday,then it means that you should have sex with her every day in a month,say 30 days!It is very bad to have sex everyday and excessive sex will also result in STD’s and HIV.Explain this clearly to her and if she rejects your opinion.then you should break up with her because you and she has different points of view in a simple thins and it would result in divorce after you have married!!
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    My mind!!

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