DATING ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Posted by: miz helena / Category: dating adviceIm going on a 3rd attempt date with this guy. The previous 2 have involved us walking around for a couple of hours tryna decide what to do and then did nothing. The other, us goin to a club, us not dancing or talking much. We’ve started talking a lot more on the phone now tho so I’m hoping 3rd time lucky. Altho I dont know what we should do/go for this date considering I live in the city (expensive) and he doesnt like spending money. I dont mind paying for myself but its about whether he can pay for himself. Any suggestions?
eeek that is a toughy. now that you’re talking more, hopefully the conversations are not just more of common chat, but maybe more in depth conversations? how much do you like his personality so far? i think if you really end up liking his personality a lot, you should see how this date goes, and then talk to him about this predicament. find out if there’s a happy medium where you don’t have to always do something involving money, but maybe something where you don’t have to just walk around. there are plenty of things to do that don’t require much money. i would really see how this third date goes first, and if it’s a little rocky, then talk to him more about the whole thing. it’s better to be open and solve a problem than to bottle it up and let it destroy things.
hey a guy wants to kiss me… i’m not even 13 and on the lips weve been going out a few weeks now but i’m not sure if i’m ready, i dont want him to think im breaking up with him , any ideas?
you should just let him know that you don’t feel ready to do that yet… you want to get to know him a little better before you start kissing… if he doesn’t want to do that and he doesn’t respect you and the way you want to do things..he isn’t good enough to be the first boy you kiss =). he should respect you.
How do you love yourself without love from elsewhere?
Posted by: miz helena / Category: love,I’m looking for a deep answer, nothing simplistic like "Love yourself for who you are" or "Look deep inside you to find yourself" etc I appreciate the sentiment but that suggests it’s like turning a tap on and off and this question is a difficult one to answer. I don’t think there is an answer really is there? But how do I walk on to the right track in this path to loving the self considering I haven’t been able to accept myself all my life?
"There is no formula for generating the authentic warmth of love. It cannot be copied. You cannot talk yourself into it or rouse it by straining at the emotions or by dedicating yourself solemnly to the service of mankind. Everyone has love, but it can only come out when he is convinced of the impossibility and the frustration of trying to love himself. This conviction will not come through condemnations, through hating oneself, through calling self love bad names in the universe. It comes only in the awareness that one has no self to love."
–Alan Watts.
Peace and love 